In therapy, I often ask clients about their hobbies, interests, or leisure activities. It’s a simple question—but one that frequently leads to long pauses or uncertain answers. Many people say, “I don’t really know what I like,” or list a single activity they no longer make time for. Others speak with noticeable warmth about creative outlets that once brought them joy: painting, gardening, crafting, music.

This contrast highlights something important. In a culture that prioritizes productivity, creativity and fun are often the first things to disappear—especially for high-functioning, responsible women who are used to pushing through stress and putting others first.

Yet creativity isn’t optional when it comes to healing. It’s foundational.

You know those moments when you snap at someone you love, then instantly feel shame twist in your chest? Or when you catch yourself pulling away, going cold, even though part of you craves connection? That’s unresolved trauma leaking into the present.

Maybe you don’t think of your past as “trauma.” Perhaps you tell yourself, 

“I had a good childhood.”
“Other people had it worse.”
“I should be over this by now.”

But if your body tenses before your mind understands why…
If your reactions sometimes feel too big for the moment…
If relationships feel like emotional déjà vu…

You may be carrying something old that never got the chance to heal.

When we think about exercise, we often picture intense workouts, sweat-drenched gym sessions, or long-distance runs. But let’s be real—sometimes, when you’re feeling down, anxious, or overwhelmed, the last thing you want to do is push yourself through a hardcore workout.